Is he into You?

It can sometimes feel like a total mystery trying to figure out if a guy is genuinely interested in you or if he is just being polite. I often think it should be relatively simple to tell when a man isn’t interested. I remember reading the famous book, “He’s Just Not That Into You,” and honestly, the signs usually seem quite clear. Sometimes it feels like you’d need someone to smack you in the head to notice the obvious red flags!

Even so, many women find themselves overthinking things when they start dating someone new. Instead of focusing on the negative side or looking for reasons why he might not like you, let’s take a much more positive approach. Let’s look at the clear signals that prove he really is into you. If you are wondering where to start, here is a helpful checklist to decode his behavior.

1. He Calls When He Says He Will

Reliability is one of the biggest green flags in a new relationship. If a man you recently met or are currently seeing looks at you and says, “I’ll give you a call,” and then actually follows through, you can feel confident that you are in. It shows he respects your time and is excited to talk to you.

On the other hand, if he promises to call and then disappears, you shouldn’t waste your energy waiting. In that case, it is best to just delete him off your phone or label his number “don’t answer.” You might eventually hear from him days or even weeks later, but that usually just means he is looking for a back-up friend to hang out with because his other plans fell through. You deserve to be a priority, not an afterthought, so feel free to drop him like a bad habit.

2. He Texts You Something Sweet While He’s Super-Busy

A guy who really likes you will find a way to reach out, no matter how packed his schedule is. He might be buried in work at the office or out having dinner with a big group of his friends, but he will still find a few seconds to send a quick hello.

He might not even have anything with substance to say at that moment. He just wants to let you know he is thinking about you. When a man goes out of his way to check in during his busy moments, there’s a sure sign he digs you.

3. He Asks You Out

This might seem like common sense, but it is a detail that many women tend to overlook. Sometimes, women start making the first move and asking the guy out because they assume he is just too shy or perhaps he is just bad at planning.

However, the truth is that a boy who likes you will set aside his dating phobias and come out of his shell just to make sure he sees you. He will take the initiative to ask you out because he doesn’t want to miss his chance. If he isn’t into you, he will usually avoid the prospect of a date entirely. It really is that simple!

4. He Takes the Time to Plan

Even if a guy isn’t normally the type to organize things, he will suddenly become a master planner if he is into you. He will put effort into thinking of fun things for you to do together and will invite you to some great outings.

The reason he does this is simple: he wants to show you a good time and ensure that you want to keep hanging out with him. He genuinely doesn’t want to disappoint you, so he puts in the work to make sure every date is special. If he’s making an effort to schedule your time together, you’re in good hands.

5. He Walks You to Your Door

This gesture might feel a little old-fashioned to some, but it says a lot about his intentions. A boy who really likes you will make the effort to show you how a gentleman should treat a lady. This means he will pick you up, take you out for a nice time, and then walk you to the door at the end of the night.

A respectful guy won’t just assume that you’ll invite him in. He will be stoked to be in that position, but he won’t pressure you. Even if you don’t invite him inside—and on the first date, you probably shouldn’t—he will still be happy to walk you to your door and give you a sweet, gentle kiss good night. When a guy treats you this way, it is obvious that he not only respects you, he also likes you.